
That’s how my life continues to develop
by Cahelfrütz
#3
I like the love between the person that I get attached to, and myself. I take part as the man I will be in that situation. I need to be that part that’s missing and what we both need in the situation.
I listen, and I also like to develop us both together as one unit. I like to follow and also take the command. I am always very safe in who I’m with, so that we both can fulfill our dreams together.
#4
A gay man who lives with another man gets attached to me. It started as a good friendship. He wanted me more and more after a while. It was nice, we played around and had fun together. I don’t feel it was ok for myself in a way. It got strange after a while. Maybe I just wanted to try this situation? The man wanted to meet me more often, but I felt the 3rd man’s “power” directed towards me. Like I’m coming to destroy. That will not happen.
When we met all 3 of us, the 3rd man got a bit mad about the situation the 2nd man and I had. But when I meet the 3rd man alone, he’s nice and kind and also wants me but then alone. But I don’t like his behavior, how he acts. Now we are mostly just friends, nothing more cause of all the “strange situations”.
I can show up strong so that no one can discipline me. I have to live in a good way with myself. It’s interesting to try out new things, but not that way that someone gets awful.
I have to get the edge out of myself when someone isn’t disciplined. I have to back off sometimes, that’s how my life continues to develop.
#5
Must continue my own way, I see myself as the vulnerable one who must find my own way. I have adapted how I need to behave in order to live a good life. The life that is considered good is not always good for me. The way I want to live is not always supported. Since there is no “stability”, I have to create my own stability. Some “people” see me as a man with “problems”, and some see me as a man with possibilities. My life has shown me possibilities and advantages. I often turn the discomfort to my advantage, in life. I think most people think about “questions” for their life. But when it goes too hard, people could get bitter, or they have to fight for their lives. Often alone, and we are many people who fight alone with our own lives and our own thoughts.
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